Is there an issue in your life that has become the focus? Does it consume all your energy and thoughts, even when you’re otherwise occupied? Does it feel like intrusive thoughts about the same thing all the time? You’re likely ruminating.

I’ve described ruminating as “sitting in a dirty puddle with a wet butt.” It doesn’t feel good. You don’t want it, but you keep doing it. I’m here to offer you a hand up and out of the puddle, to get dry again, to feel better, to reclaim your energy. You must place your mind and face in the direction you wish to be going in order to do it differently. This is an active process and a conscious act.

Ruminating is thinking of something negative that makes you feel bad. It’s all-consuming and colors the rest of your day and life with a grey-wash.

How do I stop ruminating? Read this article. Then keep making the conscious decision to stop. Like any practice, it starts out hard and gets easier as you go. You may consider starting therapy (or discussing this with your existing therapist) to help you reframe, break bad habits, have support, or think differently during this process.

You might also like a mantra to support you in not engaging in rumination. I like “It is done. Make good choices.” Dr. Greenberg uses “Stop doing the math.” Pick a short statement that makes sense to you and your situation.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Florida, Georgia, Nevada, New York, and Virginia. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter & Facebook.