Resistance as a Myth

1-1232907563I7wo“Resistance” is a word therapists are taught that means “the client is not being compliant”, or “the client is not doing what you requested of them.” I first came up against “resistance” in my early career in relation to homework. Using Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Continue reading “Resistance as a Myth”

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Wise Council

0julieSome people want you to succeed.
They see and experience all the wonderment of who you are and the gifts you have to share.
They are interested and invested (with time, money or energy) in who, what and how you contribute to the world: including your mistakes and failures.
They are supportive when you are called away to other people, places and situations that fuel your soul, inspire your mind and energize your body.
They don’t need you in order to feel accomplished and safe in their own lives. Yet they know intuitively that they need you to be accomplished and safe in your own life and will speak truth (with love) to help you get there.
This is your Wise Council. This week, I invite you to listen.

 

Julie Davis, LMFT
Licensed Marriage Family Therapist, Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist
Los Gatos Recovery Center 16400 Lark Avenue, Los Gatos, CA 95032 408-384-9717
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Your formal living room

Two living rooms
Growing up in Los Angeles, I only saw homes with a common living room. When I moved to South Florida, I started seeing two living rooms, something which is apparently common. You have your formal living room, a space for adults to entertain colleagues, acquaintance, and those they want to impress. A little further in is your family room, what I had known as a living room, where the TV, video games, and books are kept, where the family and close friends gather to converse and spend time together.

Privacy
There are boundaries you can set in your life, such as who has certain information about you. Continue reading “Your formal living room”

User Manual – Guest Blog by Julie Davis, LMFT

0julieA friend called me the other day raving about the new gadget that she had saved for, shopped for, invested in, and finally owned. Two weeks later I asked her about it:

“It’s too complicated. I can’t figure out how to make it work.”

“What about the User Manual?” I suggested.

“I don’t have the time. I’m just going to get rid of it.”

Unfortunately, I find this to be a similar way of thinking in many relationships:

Continue reading “User Manual – Guest Blog by Julie Davis, LMFT”

Not Mine- Reframing Technique

0notWe cannot control others. You’ve heard this. The good news is: we don’t have to! We need only control our response to others, which is totally doable.

There are always going to be people cutting us off in traffic, people talking down to us, people undervaluing our work, and those who don’t believe in us. We need not give them any more of our attention than the bare minimum, but we need to categorize their words and actions as “theirs” and “not mine.” Continue reading “Not Mine- Reframing Technique”

Cure Insomnia

0insomCure your insomnia once and for good with self-hypnosis.

Attend a 2-hour training on self-hypnosis and learn a customized script to get to sleep quickly and effortlessly. I’ll teach you what to do, what not to do, and how to best work with your mind to accomplish deep, restful sleep with each application of the technique. Continue reading “Cure Insomnia”

Multitask Efficiently without Comparison

0autWhen I meet someone new, inevitably, they ask “What do you do for a living?” There’s always a moment of awkward silence where I figure out what to state first – usually whatever has the newest project happening or what I think will resonate with the listener. My friends always laugh in that pause because they know there’s a litany of answers coming. My husband says he has the same pause when people ask “What does your wife do? Is she in software, too?” My husband has a 9-5 job, just one, but is also co-owner of our board game business.

I answer, usually all in one breath, and they squint at me with one eyebrow raised skeptically and look at our mutual friend for confirmation, who always nods enthusiastically. Continue reading “Multitask Efficiently without Comparison”

40 Minute Guilt Session

0womanWatching clients transform is my favorite thing!

One morning, I covered for a colleague who does talk therapy while that therapist was out on vacation. The clients cannot be rescheduled as they are court mandated to attend. I had an hour with a client whom I had never met, and thus had no rapport to begin with; we were starting as strangers. Having covered this population for the colleague previously, I expected that she would merely want to chat the hour down and get her credit for being where she needed to be; but I was wrong.

I introduced myself and asked if she had anything she wanted to get done or just wanted to kill down the clock. She said “actually, there is something.” “Oh, great! What’s up?” She discussed her feelings of guilt and shame over having been away from her children while incarcerated and feeling somewhat removed from them now that she was back in their lives. Continue reading “40 Minute Guilt Session”

Ethical Treatment is Confidential

hippa
This is a joke. HIPAA is no joke.

HIPAA is the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act and is what is in place to keep mental health professionals from discussing cases.

Ethical therapists like myself take this seriously. Things that are private:

  • The fact that you are a client.
  • Particulars of a case.
  • Particulars of a client.
  • Length or type of services.
  • Identifying information such as name, location, or details that may identify a client.

Ethical therapist can discuss a case with their peers without their peers having any clue as to whom the case is about. The less details given, the better. Only the details needed to get help with a case are discussed, and a clear goal in the consultation is established.

For example: This celebrity case Continue reading “Ethical Treatment is Confidential”