You CAN:Steps for Successful Progress

“I can’t. I don’t know how.” What more paralyzing words are there? This is how children think. Adults know that the information exists, if you only know how to find it. Adults say it and it means you don’t know where to find the information.

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We live in a society of information overload. However, we also live in the Technological Age and nearly everything can be answered by your friend and mine, The Great Wizard Google. What he can’t explain, he’ll allow his sidekick YouTube to illustrate for him.

 

I found a pattern online ages ago called Argyle Octopus for cross stitch, one of my hobbies. Also recently, Subversive Cross Stitch offered a pendant kit. I thought this was the perfect marriage. I ordered the round pendant kit and went looking for that argyle octopus pattern, only to find it was no longer available. I found loads of silhouette patterns available, like the hibiscus hippo and the plaid plesiosaur, both fantastic, but not what I wanted.

I don’t know how to make a pattern. I don’t draw well. I can’t. 

 

Except that I can.

 

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I do know how to search online and have been doing so for years. Using the word “silhouette” that I’d found in my Etsy and Pinterest searches of similar patterns, I asked The Great Wizard Google for an octopus silhouette and he showed me tons. I wanted one that was “square” so it would fit in the pendant. I found this one. I pasted it into Word and made it small enough to fit the pendant opening, then meticulously cut it out, removing the curly suckers. I do know how to cut out shapes – I learned that in elementary school. I then traced the pattern with a special pen onto the fabric. Tracing is a skill I also learned in elementary school.

 

0traceThen I opened Excel, a program I do know how to use. I counted the number of squares covered by the outline and figured out approximately how the pattern would look. I guessed and did not worry about being precise. Close enough would be close enough. I then drew the pattern in Excel. I’ve never done this before. I don’t know how. But I figured it out because I do know how to draw on graph paper, and I had nothing more than digital graph paper on my screen. Once I had it filled in as an outline, I went back to Google and looked for an argyle pattern in cross stitch. I adapted what I found to my pattern. It’s ugly, definitely, but was all the guideline I needed to get started. Who cares if this is not the “right” way to make a pattern? It works.

0trace2I chose some colors by knowing I needed 4 colors total (based on the pictures of argyle I’d just seen) and wanting to keep at least 2 of them as blues for the underwater nature of the octopus. I used a red and a yellow as my contrasts. I chose colors I already owned, and decided that the color-variations thread would be interesting-looking. I chose the area I thought would be easiest and just began.

0step1Once done, I followed the directions to trim the excess fabric and adhere it to the back of the pendant. That was somewhat difficult as it involves a “running stitch” which is a sewing term and, although I’ve been cross stitching since I was 9, I do not know how to sew; it is a completely different skill set. But, what I do know is how to follow directions and there were photos in the instructions, so I gave it my best shot. I bet it is messier than someone who sews, but I got the job done, and it’s on the back where no one will ever see it. I also used some masking tape to hold things in place. I improvised. That is also something I know how to do – fudge it until it looks right, when necessary.

0step2Then, I realized I’d made an error! I forgot to wash the fabric and still had the blue outlines. I removed the backing and rinsed it off, holding the fabric ever so gently as not to undo my stitching. I put it immediately back on the pendant backing and pulled the thread tighter, then used my blow-drier to dry the fabric onto the backing. Here’s something I guessed: blow driers make my hair smooth, and will probably smooth any wrinkles in the fabric if it is on a smooth surface like the pendant backing.
0step3Not knowing what I was doing in assembling the pendant, I merely followed directions, something I have had a lot of practice at. And it is done! It is imperfect; I don’t care. If I were to do this project again, I’d choose colors with higher contrast, not two blues. I also considered outlining it so you can see each arm, but none of the silhouettes I viewed used back-stitching (outlining) so I skipped it.

Even if you think you can’t, you can. Break the task into small pieces that you DO know how to do. Even something challenging is not, if you think in small enough pieces and focus on what you do know.

Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right. –Henry Ford.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

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Changing Habits: From I CAN’T to I DON’T

Diet. Dieting concept. Healthy Food. Beautiful Young Woman choosIf you are ready to make a change in your eating habits, workout routine, motivation, substance abuse, smoking habits, parenting habits, or any other thing, hypnotherapy can move your item into the Not Box.

I read an article on changing habits that discussed change as moving an item from “I can’t” to “I don’t.”

I don’t, in hypnosis terms, is the “not box.” It’s where things simply are not. It’s the place in subconscious mind where things you would never do, but have heard of, exist. I might ask if you would punch a baby or rob an old lady, and you would [hopefully] said “no, never.” That’s your Not Box.

I can’t, on the other hand, is everything you feel you should not do, but definitely would or might do. This is still in the realm of possibility, so it is still in Yes. “Yes, I would,” and “Yes, I might” exist in the same plane of the subconscious.

If you want to change a habit, the item needs to move from Yes to to the Not Box. It needs to get out of the realm of possibility and become something you simply don’t do.

For example: If you want to quit smoking, I could ask if you would ever smoke and – because it’s not nearly so horrendous as punching a baby – you might say “yes, I might, but I don’t want to.” My job, then, would be to move the act of smoking from the Yes plane to the Not Box. A person who never took up smoking, like me, would simply say, “No, I don’t smoke.” A person who quit smoking and plans to never return to smoking will respond, “No, I don’t smoke anymore.”

If you are a person who has quit drinking, if I offered you a cocktail, you’d say “No thanks, I don’t drink.” Exactly the same, is the response of a vegan when offered a steak, “No thanks, I don’t eat meat.”

Having something in the Not Box makes it so “I don’t” is a natural response without any emotional connection attached. If there is fear of use, it is still in the plane of Yes because it is still attached to “I might” or “I know I shouldn’t.” That is the mark of unfinished work. There is no interest in something you simply don’t do. If you offer me a cigarette, I simply say “no thanks” but am neither offended or tempted as it is something that merely holds no interest for me.

If you are ready to make a change, call today. 954-612-9553

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Nothing is Important

0imWhen we make something important we attach meaning and value to it. Often, this leads to problems. Let’s say you feel it is important to work on your thesis, to exercise, or to spend time with your kids. What if that doesn’t happen today? What if you get bogged down with other stuff and it just gets missed? In steps guilt. Guilt is how primitive mind communicates “hurry up and do that now” even when there’s a timing glitch of “there’s nothing to do because that time has passed.”

So the next day,you assign even more importance to the thing. You say “today will be different because I really need to do…” whatever it was. So today comes and you spend energy thinking about that important thing. You think about doing it, but you don’t do it.

Do you know why you didn’t do it? You got blocked. Mind blocked the action because it seemed so important that it attached a value of danger. If we have to watch out for something, then it is on our radar as a potential hazard. Mind reacts by withdrawing. Then in lumbers guilt – stupid guilt – saying “but you should have…” whatever it was. All this, even while there is no time traveling ability to go back and do the thing. Timing glitch.

If you want to achieve your goals, mind needs to be trained on how to disassociate meaning and value from things so that things have none of this false importance. This alleviates writers block, progresses you into action, lowers stress, and eliminates guilt. I can teach your mind to work more efficiently. For a consultation, call 954-612-9553.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Plan your Success – Keep your Resolutions by Planning Ahead

0paLet’s think about the year that was and the year to be:

  • What goals did you set for yourself this year and how close did you get to meeting them?
  • Did you make some progress?
  • What were your obstacles?
  • Do you know how you can overcome those obstacles in the future?
  • What are your new or revised goals?
  • What’s the best way you see to get there?
  • How do you need assistance in setting your intention or cementing your target – what you might think of as “motivation?”

Hypnotherapy is a great way to set your target, and coaching is available to drop in every few weeks and keep the pace up so you reach your goals and tweak any little changes along the way. Let me assist you for the best you.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Entrepreneur Success

0clEntrepreneurs are faced with stressors that are uncommon among the rest of society. There is an ebb and flow of fear and excitement, worry about project failure and success, a feeling of being an impostor, anxiety over being in over your head, self-assuredness and self-doubt.

When explained to a 9 to 5 employee, these things make no sense as a pattern for every day living. People will wonder if you’re crazy for this emotional roller coaster – and so will you. It only makes sense that those who are up late and up early with ideas, who are perceiving the pressures of time and deadlines differently will be seen as different. You even see yourself as different.

Having a therapist who is also an entrepreneur allows you to skip the explanations and get right into the feeling better – and knowing what you need. This saves valuable time in therapy and benefits you immediately.

Call for an appointment to reduce the stress of being an entrepreneur. 954-612-9553

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.