Two living rooms
Growing up in Los Angeles, I only saw homes with a common living room. When I moved to South Florida, I started seeing two living rooms, something which is apparently common. You have your formal living room, a space for adults to entertain colleagues, acquaintance, and those they want to impress. A little further in is your family room, what I had known as a living room, where the TV, video games, and books are kept, where the family and close friends gather to converse and spend time together.
There are boundaries you can set in your life, such as who has certain information about you. Continue reading “Your formal living room”
I just saw Pacific Rim: Uprising (no spoilers). In the Pacific Rim movies, the stars pilot a mech, called a Jaeger, and fight Kaiju, monsters that have risen from the ocean, to protect the city. A Jaeger takes two pilots who have to “drift” in order to work well together. The process shares intimate memories with the copilot. Once a pair of pilots drifts, they can train together to maintain control of the mech and be in sync.
As a hypnotherapist, new clients sometimes say that they are nervous about “being hypnotized” because they are afraid of feeling “out of control.” Statements like this are based on misinformation about hypnosis and hypnotherapy, as seen in TV. Continue reading “Power in surrender”
There has been a shift in Politically Correct language in the past few years. We, in the mental health field, no longer say “committed suicide”, but instead “died by suicide.” The change is subtle, but not without meaning. Continue reading “Died by Suicide”
Shopping for the holidays puts many people under additional stress: from spending money they don’t have, to long wish lists from kids or family members, to the time it takes to fulfill these desires-turned-demands.
My first suggestion is to trim your gift-giving list. In our family, we went from buying presents for 15 people to just the kids, which was initially 4, and grew to be 6, but is still much more reasonable. Also, my husband and I don’t exchange gifts as we take a trip for our anniversary the next month, and his birthday is right around Christmas, so he gets a birthday gift, which is usually an experience (comedy club, weekend trip, performing arts event).
To trim things even further, use The Rule of 4. Continue reading “Minimizing Holiday Stress”
“I can’t. I don’t know how.” What more paralyzing words are there? This is how children think. Adults know that the information exists, if you only know how to find it. Continue reading “You CAN:Steps for Successful Progress”
A friend called me the other day raving about the new gadget that she had saved for, shopped for, invested in, and finally owned. Two weeks later I asked her about it:
“It’s too complicated. I can’t figure out how to make it work.”
“What about the User Manual?” I suggested.
“I don’t have the time. I’m just going to get rid of it.”
Unfortunately, I find this to be a similar way of thinking in many relationships:
Continue reading “User Manual – Guest Blog by Julie Davis, LMFT”
If you are ready to make a change in your eating habits, workout routine, motivation, substance abuse, smoking habits, parenting habits, or any other thing, hypnotherapy can move your item into the Not Box.
I read an article on changing habits that discussed change as moving an item from “I can’t” to “I don’t.” Continue reading “Changing Habits: From I CAN’T to I DON’T”
Of the most common fears, test-taking ranks one of the few that we are legitimately made to face. We can avoid heights, spiders, and death for a time, but in order to get through school, get into college, or finish an advanced degree, test-taking remains one of the fears we have to repeatedly face. Continue reading “Overcome Test Anxiety”
We cannot control others. You’ve heard this. The good news is: we don’t have to! We need only control our response to others, which is totally doable.
There are always going to be people cutting us off in traffic, people talking down to us, people undervaluing our work, and those who don’t believe in us. We need not give them any more of our attention than the bare minimum, but we need to categorize their words and actions as “theirs” and “not mine.” Continue reading “Not Mine- Reframing Technique”
Cure your insomnia once and for good with self-hypnosis.
Attend a 2-hour training on self-hypnosis and learn a customized script to get to sleep quickly and effortlessly. I’ll teach you what to do, what not to do, and how to best work with your mind to accomplish deep, restful sleep with each application of the technique. Continue reading “Cure Insomnia”