If someone could just feel better, they would. For everyone else, there’s therapy. Telling people to think positively is as ridiculous as telling someone to “Just wish your broken arm away.” Positivity becomes toxic when it fails to account for the reasoning or dismisses the person’s feelings. Sometimes, the vibe is just bad, and that’s okay, too. We don’t have to be happy all the time. Perhaps the meaning of life is to feel everything; either way, life has highs and lows. We need to learn to cope with the lows and get through them without self-destructing or exploding, but we can honor the part of us that is hurting, too – and we can honor that in others, allowing them the space to get through the hard times with our support, not our positivity.
The mind is negatively skewed to ensure our safety. If we think the stick is a snake, we will be wary, but if we always assume it is a stick, sometimes we will be bitten. We’re meant to think negatively, but that does not mean we are meant to be depressed or to remain in a low state. There is a reason or a time for being down, and a reason and a time for being up. Getting back up can be hard, but it is practical. In an up-state, a good vibes time, we can appreciate things in a way that we cannot in a depression. If this is too difficult to do alone, there is therapy, medication, hospitalization, outpatient programs, exercise, music, sunshine, and a balanced diet. Balance is difficult to find, but you can do it. I, for one, am here to help.
Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Nevada, New York, and Virginia. Call 407-494-5280 for a consultation. Follow Clear Mind Group on Twitter & Facebook.
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