When working with the subconscious, you have to connect with the subconscious in it’s language.
Think of a birthday party you once had. Do you remember who was there? What happened? How you felt? Music that played? What was said? There’s little chance you remember specifically what was said because the mind stores information in pictures and feelings. Language is an overlay that we have worked hard to create over time, but is translated at the conscious level.
Working with the subconscious is best done through the use of accurate metaphors. Metaphor creates a layer of protection between the client’s threatening memory and the therapy process, taking the sting out of therapy and making it much more fun to participate in; this leads to additional client engagement and less cancelled sessions.
If you would like to hear your client’s story, noting the relevant items, relationships, and settings, and ignoring the irrelevant ones, to create metaphors that subconscious mind connects with in order to induce the most useful change, call me for a consultation.
For example: A woman recalls having been tripped in the cafeteria in middle school. She felt embarrassed, confused, and upset. She tells you that her peers and the adults in the room did nothing while the bully pointed and laughed at her. Take a moment to examine this example for what her subconscious mind remembered in that 2 second video clip or snapshot of the moment. What elements are relevant? Which are irrelevant?
I would construct a metaphor utilizing the feelings she verbalized (embarrassed, confused, upset), the notion that she was not saved by her community, and lightening that metaphor so that the memory of the original event is softened. This new metaphor is a subset of the original memory, which will be attached, but not replace, the original memory.
She is a court jester. Her job is to be embarrassed in front of her community, even though she does not always like that job, and most people do not love every moment of their jobs. She has to do pratfalls, get pied in the face, and be made fun of by royalty. This is much less threatening of an event to imagine than the actual event.
This takes me just a moment to concoct. I’d like you to be as excellent at working with the subconscious! There is no such thing as too many good therapists and if I can help you grow with this technique, it is my pleasure to do so.
Consultation is $50/hour as we can meet monthly or up to weekly, as is your preference, in small groups or individually. Please call 954-612-9553 to schedule. Video conferencing is available from me to where ever you are in the world.
Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter & Facebook.