We cannot control others. You’ve heard this. The good news is: we don’t have to! We need only control our response to others, which is totally doable.
There are always going to be people cutting us off in traffic, people talking down to us, people undervaluing our work, and those who don’t believe in us. We need not give them any more of our attention than the bare minimum, but we need to categorize their words and actions as “theirs” and “not mine.”
Not Mine is a particular technique wherein you learn to control your response to the words and actions of others and take in none of it as your own.The problems (anger, fear, stress, resentment) begin when we internalize what belongs to another as if it need have any affect on us. But this is untrue; we need only feel our authentic response to any situation. You can do so from within a protective bubble of reframing knowing “that opinion is Not Mine and I need no response to that opinion.”
Make an appointment to learn this useful technique and reclaim your emotional boundaries. Call Autumn at 954-612-9553
Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.