When a spouse cheats, there can be the thought of “I should have known” by the betrayed party. The person may feel foolish or blind and doubt his/her ability to move forward with trust.
Trust is a concept without form. Assessment is a skill we constantly use. However, trust is conceptual and an illusion. Continue reading “Trusting After a Betrayal”
We cannot control others. You’ve heard this. The good news is: we don’t have to! We need only control our response to others, which is totally doable.
There are always going to be people cutting us off in traffic, people talking down to us, people undervaluing our work, and those who don’t believe in us. We need not give them any more of our attention than the bare minimum, but we need to categorize their words and actions as “theirs” and “not mine.” Continue reading “Not Mine- Reframing Technique”